Apr 2, 2025
For many, college is seen as a pinnacle of youth—a time of carefree exploration and self-discovery. It’s easy to believe that those years represent the best times of our lives, filled with friendships, late-night conversations, and a sense of independence that feels magical. However, as I navigate my 50s and witness my children stepping into adulthood, I’ve come to realize that the most fulfilling moments can occur long after graduation.
Society often glorifies youth, leading us to believe that our happiest moments are confined to our college years. This narrative creates unrealistic expectations and pressures to follow a singular path. Many of us have felt that weight, watching peers declare their majors and embark on careers, all the while wondering how they could possibly know what they wanted for the rest of their lives. It’s a daunting task for anyone in their early twenties, yet we often forget that life is rarely linear.
Think of life as a book, with each decade representing a new chapter. In our 20s, we may focus on education and self-discovery. In our 30s, family and stability often take center stage, filled with laughter, chaos, and love. Even then, many of us feel the urge to explore beyond the roles we’ve embraced.
Consider the transformative experiences that can unfold in unexpected places. For me, it was in the Midwest, where I discovered new passions and priorities. I never imagined that Chicago would become so significant; it was there that I got married and became a mother, surrounded by the warmth of family and friends. Each milestone shaped me in ways I never expected.
In my 40s, a new passion blossomed as my family and I set out to explore as much of the U.S. as we could. I’m proud to say I’ve visited 47 states, while my husband has reached all 50, and my kids have explored about 30. Along the way, we decided to immerse ourselves in national parks, igniting a deep connection to the outdoors. Each park offered unique landscapes and a chance to appreciate nature’s beauty, turning our adventures into something I eagerly anticipated.
Hiking became a newfound passion, revealing surprising truths about myself. I didn’t realize how scared I was of heights until I began exploring those majestic trails. Confronting that fear has become part of the thrill, and with each hike, I feel a little braver and more alive.
In my 50s, I embraced another bold step by starting my own practice as a psychotherapist. Transitioning from being a teacher and stay-at-home mom to pursuing my passion for mental health counseling was a journey in itself. After working in a large practice for seven years, I took the leap to establish my own practice, feeling both petrified and excited.
This new chapter has brought me a sense of fulfillment I never anticipated. My experiences have deepened my understanding of myself, instilling a confidence I now carry with me. The challenges and joys of my past have prepared me for this moment, teaching me to trust my instincts and embrace the unknown.
As I reflect on my journey, I’m filled with gratitude for the chapters that have shaped me. The lessons learned from the twists and turns remind us all that the best times of our lives aren’t confined to our youth; they can happen at any stage.
This realization brings a sense of peace. It’s never too late to create the life you want. The chapters yet to be written are filled with endless possibilities, waiting for you to embrace them with excitement. Life is a beautiful, ongoing story, and I’m here to help you navigate your journey. Together, we can uncover your unique path and empower you to discover your best self. Let’s celebrate each new page as it unfolds.